Category: Goals and Ideas


I made a book?… I made a #$@&%*! book!!!

Five years ago I decided to stop keeping my work in porn a secret from my family. After all, I have nothing to be ashamed about! I asked my peers for advice and heard the most incredible range of ‘coming out’ stories. Thinking “This would make a powerful book,” I began a call for submissions, sought out publishing advice, solicited stories from performers, and landed a book deal!

COMING OUT LIKE A PORN STAR is now a tangible, physical thing that can be touched (the cover is surprisingly soft and beckons to be stroked) and the pages are screaming to be flipped through and dog eared. (I love a well-worn book.)

Thanks to ThreeL Media, Gregory and Tina, cover designer Jamee Baiser, all the contributors and everyone who gave me advice and encouragement along the way. I’m also grateful to performers who declined to submit a story because it was too risky, or chose to publish anonymously or under a pen name. It reaffirmed the book’s importance even in the final stages of publication.

It happened and you can order it directly from me here.

New Anthology of Porn Performer Stories Invites You In


 COMING OUT LIKE A PORN STAR is a definitive anthology by performer and industry veteran Jiz Lee with personal stories by over 50 porn professionals who “came out” — or chose not to — to family, friends, and lovers. Contributors represent a wide range of sexualities, ethnicities, and genders, with stories intersecting topics such as coming out as trans and queer, and stories where performers’ own voices push back against media that further stigmatizes the people – particularly women – who have chosen to do porn.

The collection is a nuanced and powerful reflection of society’s view of sex as experienced first-hand by its workers and its stories are unique as they are unifying. As Lee writes in the Introduction: “I struggled with the reality of telling my family about my increasing involvement in the adult industry. Were others out to their parents? How did they talk about it to their siblings? What could I learn from their experiences? In asking the questions, I’d hit a nerve. Everyone had a story to tell.”

Essays by notable adult industry professionals include Annie Sprinkle, Candida Royalle, Christopher Zeischegg, Conner Habib, Joanna Angel, Lorelei Lee, Nina Hartley, Ashley Blue, Stoya, and more. (See for the full list, which spans gay, queer, BDSM and other porn genres spanning the USA, Spain, and Australia.) Foreword by Dr. Mireille Miller-Young, author of A Taste for Brown Sugar: Black Women in Pornography. Book cover design by Jamee Baiser.

COMING OUT LIKE A PORN STAR is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble, and signed copies are available through Retailers may contact Ana for wholesale or review inquiries at or (510) 524-8732 ext 103.

About the Editor
Jiz Lee is an award-winning porn performer and industry veteran whose work spans queer pornography and hardcore gonzo adult film genres. Overcoming porn addiction and all of the shame, frustration and self-doubt can be difficult. Your brain is literally working against you and you may be depending on your porn addiction just to get through the day. Visit to learn on Lee’s writing appears in The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure, Best Sex Writing 2015, Genderqueer, and on

About ThreeL Media
ThreeL Media is a publisher with a mission to offer its audience fresh perspectives on sexuality, gender, and the human body. Live, Love, Learn. Distributed by Consortium Book Sales & Distribution. Find more information at

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Birthday Wish: IRONMAN 70.3!

by Jiz Lee on / Goals and Ideas

I don’t often ask for birthday gifts, but this year I have a big goal.

Last summer, I completed my first Olympic Triathlon. It was incredible. Immediately after, I signed on for another race in Santa Cruz, and beat my prior record! Next year, I want to compete in my first half-Ironman triathlon, the IRONMAN 70.3 Vineman on July 12, 2015. (Registration opens November 1st!)

Swimming, biking, and running are not very expensive sports. In fact, I already have most of the equipment I’ll need. But costs will add up for this next race. And that’s where you come in!

Will you be a sponsor for my race?

I’ve estimated the IRONMAN 70.3 to cost $1000. It’s $300 to register, but will need more things along the way: For the race, I’ll need to renew my USA Triathlon Membership, and getting there will have travel and lodging costs. Training will also see some expenses, including replacing my running shoes, getting a bike tune-up, buying more entree passes for swim workouts at the pool, new bras and socks (who knew I’d go through so many!?), and not to mention all of the food I’m inhaling to replace burned calories. I’m estimating at least $1000, and I am also thinking of checking out zegarki damskie because I have always wanted one of their watches.

Become my community of sponsors! I don’t want flowers, candy, or cards. What makes me really happy right now has been an immense sense of accomplishment and feeling my body get faster and stronger. Help push me to finish a 1.2 mile swim, 56 mile bike, and 13.1 mile run — my longest race yet!

As a thank you, I’ll send you a special card. And if I see you in person: a big, sweaty hug.

Donate any amount and help me get there!

UPDATE 10/31/2014: WOW. I’m blown away by the support and donations, thank you so much everyone! With your support, I’ll not only be able to compete, but can enter more race events and even travel to some further away. I’m pumped by the encouragement and am loving this new passion in my life. Thank you for being my community sponsors!

UPDATE 11/1/2014: Today I went to the website to register, as it opened November 1st, but found the event sold out and it’s waiting list full! Apparently it’s an extremely popular race because it’s a world championship qualifier. Having missed it, I’ve decided to once again race in the Olympic sized Vineman in May 2015, and will make sure to catch the next 70.3 event in 2016. In the meantime, I’ll stop kicking myself for missing the wave, and will find another 70.3 length race to enter next year — which I’m still really excited about. This taught me a big lesson; next time I’m setting an alarm!

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