Poly Love

My Fucking Dirty Thirty

Wow! I am the luckiest 30 year old on the planet. For my birthday I had a 30-person (Plus ME for good luck!) orgy at CrashPadSeries.com. I invited all the cast from the site, as well as some friends I knew were in town who are the porny type. Shine Louise Houston and I had...

PaddedKINK – Queer and Cold

Did you know there’s a body-positive kink porn site? It’s called PaddedKINK.com. It also happens to be queer friendly as well; Courtney Trouble and I shot for one of the scenes, and it was a smash hit. I was really flattered to be a part of it, not only because I applaud the creation of...

Musings on Non-Monogamy

Always a fan of maps and diagrams, such as the ever popular Obsidian Fields Poster of the Map of Human Sexuality, I was happy to find a diagram of non-monogamous relationships on Franklin Veaux’s Journal Sexual Informatics: Non-Monogamy: There are a couple of things this brings up for me, including the idea of “cheating”, as...

Speakeasy Queer Porn Film Noir Remakes Classic Adult with Femmes, FtMs, and GenderQueers

Tomorrow night (Saturday 12th) is the Premiere of Speakeasy, directed by Courtney Trouble. It’s going to be screened at the Kick-Off Party of Good Vibrations‘ Independent Erotic Film Festival (IXFF). The event’s happening at El Rio in San Francisco, and promises to be a good time had by all. Photo: NoFauxxx.com I sometimes get nervous...

digital scrapbook: 4 year anniversary

I keep an old school (aka paper) moleskin datebook. No iPhone or PalmPilot (or even Google Calendar) for me, thanks. Everything I do that involves timeliness and the rotation of the sun must be put in writing in a little black, lined book. When the year is done, it is thrown into a box where...

6 Basic Needs

“It’s complicated.” Love is a beautiful, dangerous, inspiring, and complicated kick in the ass. I’m in open relationships. In the past I was non-consensually¬† non-monogamous… aka I cheated, a lot. In the past five years or so, I’ve been learning how to communicate honestly, which included being more truthful to myself. That might be the...

Twincest’s Death

Last night our performance art duo twincest met our timely death at the hands of a drunken mob. Shawn and I performed at CounterPULSE Theater, with pinata replicas of our twin-like selves. It was a benefit for Jess Curtis/Gravity who will be performing their full length show in March. Jess introduced us. We invited the...

Clothespins Dare for The Social

I helped Fivestar (iamfivestar.com) with her dare for Elle‘s The Social to see how many clothespins her flesh could accommodate at once. It was a lovely experience and I’m looking forward to more! Fivestar documented it on flickr and via her video blog. Here’s a quick pick of the aftermath, save one tremendously teasing pin…...

Bondage at Fort Ord

Last weekend I had the pleasure of joining Fivestar and photographer Terrence Taylor for a bondage photography shoot in the abandoned Fort Ord in Monterey Bay. Terry was such a pleasure to meet, and I had a fantastic time exploring rope. Truth be told, rope bondage is still a very new sensation for me. I...

Twincest Merch

You know the performance art duo that Shawn and I do called twincest? Well, we have some pretty efing cute shirts. It’d be way cool if someone wore one to our next show. We’re doing a benefit with Jess Curtis Gravity in January.But until then, the merch. Merch like real artists! ; ) From left...

Star struck

Who IS this hottie!? Why, it’s none other than Syd Blakovich (whom many of you know as Shawn from Pink & White Productions) who plays “Jesse” in the upcoming film Champion. I’ve been star struck with this gorgeous genderqueer stick of dynamite since I first lay eyes on her at an API art show, SLIT...

Get Stuffed

Happy day for giving thanks, appreciation, and love to those in your life. [I wish this of you EVERY day, not just on some colonizers’ anniversary.] Today I’m thankful for amazing friends and lovers who fill my days with happiness, support, and fun adventure. Last night I sat with friends for a special Blowfish Podcast,...

Birthday Candle Wax

Can you tell I had a good birthday? I haven’t written a new post in quite a while. (Don’t worry, the next one will be worth it.)Recapping on my birthday week… briefly. I have to run soon and do an interview for a New Zealand MMA feature that my partner is in. I definitely don’t...

Love Begets Love

Love begets love, love knows no rules, this is the same for all. ~Publius Vergilius Maro [Image: Hugh’s Stormhoek label designs.] Just when I thought love couldn’t get any better… I’m from Hawai`i where it’s common to see bumperstickers that not only say “SLOW DOWN, this ain’t the Mainland” but also “Live Aloha” which literally...

I Blame Twitter

Why have my posts become less frequent? Because I’m hooked on Twitter. Which is really pretty ridiculous since I only have, like, 20 followers or something. But it’s just so damn addicting! (thx @iamfivestar for introducing me to distraction heaven.) I just wish my closest of closest friends would join so I could follow them....