I recently finished reading “Visible: A Femmethology” for a book review on CarnalNation.com. Here’s an excerpt:

Though every femme story is unique, there are a few themes which illuminate common struggles. Topics such as ‘passing’—being recognized as one’s identity, be it a queer woman, a bisexual woman, or a femme, prove to be challenges that unite the authors’ experiences. Further complexities such as health, sexual abuse, economic standing, and racial and cultural oppressions also define life experiences and the authors’ relation to their femme identity, however it is defined. [read more]

Please do click over to check it out, particularly the comments. And if you have a moment to rate it, that’d be nice!

It was such a validating collection of very different works coming from very different experiences. (And, if you checked out the review, you saw that perhaps not everyone’s voice was included.)

What I took from reading all those different stories was a stronger defined perspective and attitude about femme pornstars. More specifically, the inspiration to reconsider the language with which I use to talk about femme pornstars in queer and ‘not-exactly-queer’ porn. The concept of passing as femme is extremely interesting to me in my identity as a genderqueer pornstar and how my gender has been expressed and experienced within the work that I do. Femme for me pushes various topics… on ‘fitting in’ when in comes to mainstream porn, girl/girl work, the visibility and bisexual women and transwomen models, the identity of femme trannyfags, and the gendered perception of hair.

I’ll write a post about my thoughts on that soon! (Hence the title… I couldn’t help but get started on some thoughts!

In the meantime: take a glance, cause I really enjoyed writing this for CarnalNation.com