If you make a purchase through these sites (♥) a percentage will support my work!

Top Shelf Smut

♥ Crash Pad Series | Shine Louise Houston gives you the key to the hottest queer sex in SF
♥ Pink Label | Fair-trade VOD Progressive Porn Hub for Indie & Emerging Adult Filmmakers
♥ QueerPorn.TV | Public Access to the Sexual Underground

Toys & Gear

♥ Jiz Lee’s Stockroom Store | Fetish, Bondage & Kink Gear
♥ Good Vibrations | High Quality Sex Toys and more from the folks who started it all
♥ Toys in Babeland | Queer Woman-owned and operated sex toy store
♥ LELO | Luxurious Vibrators

More Hot Mess

♥ HotMoviesForHer | Str8, Lesbian, Gay, and Queer VOD!
♥ Heavenly Spire | Shine Louise Houston’s Masculine Sex Studio — with Queer Cis & Trans Men!
♥ Indie Porn Revolution | Courtney Trouble’s re-vamped No Fauxxx site
♥ Joanna Angel | She has magic G-spot fingers
♥ Evil Angel | Shoots for Belladonna, Dana Vespoli, and Bobbi Starr
♥ Burning Angel | Joanna’s Movies!
♥ Good Dyke Porn | Authentic dyke porn from Canada
♥ EnterBelladonna.com | As sweet as she is sexy.
♥ Cocksexual.com | it’s a sexual identity
♥ Wolf Hudson | He’s BAD.
♥ BlueBlood.com
♥ CrazyBabe.com

Other Links in No Particular Order… And always a work in progress!

Prevention and Tolerance: A Counselor’s Guide to Bullying by Lina Parker, with links to bullying resources.
Mickey Mod | Mister Sexy
OhJoySexToy.com | Sex Toy Comics (and my Ask a Porn Star!)
Nerve.com | <– Read about Queer People Making “Straight” Porn
Danny Wylde | Full Package
Syd Blakovich | Ex Twin
FiveStar A.K.A. 5★ | A Videographer with too many ideas and not enough time
Violet Blue | My new years smooch buddy
Buck Angel | Porn’s Famous Man with a Pussy
Dr. Carol Queen | Sexologist and Sexy Cultural Non-Profiteer
Malcolm Gladwell | Author of The Tipping Point and some other fun books
Morty Diamond | Director of “The Nasty Love of Papi & Wil”
Ms Nikkie Nefarious | Nefarious Rigger!
Patricia Justine Tumang | Hearts!
Princess Donna’s Kink Blog | Zappy Hearts!
Mollena | Her blog speaks for itself.
Sarah Dopp | Genderplayful Activist
Sasha Grey | Well done.
Margaret Cho | She watches my porn. (Really, she told me this.)
Sara Vibes | Baby IMsL!
Nina Hartley | Heterosexual Butch Lesbian Pornstar
Tales of the Pack | Lesbian Werewolves
Vid Tuesday | Genderqueer Comic and Pornstar
Bella Vendetta | Pretty rad.
Reid Mihalko | Sexy Geek
Courtney Trouble | QPM4Life
Twisted Monk | and his blog
Njoy Toys | Makers of the ELEVEN, Pure Wand, and other stainless steel dildos and plugs
Early2Bed | and Early2Rise
Smitten Kitten | Seriously Progressive Sex Toy Store
Good For Her | Creators of the Feminist Porn Awards!
Pink & White Productions | A Shine Louise Houston Creation
PornSaints | I’m a pornsaint
Pucker Up | Tristan Taormino’s Sex-Positive Salon
Racialicious | Great blog on racial issues
TS Roadmap | Good Resource
What is a Man or Woman? | Good Resource
What IS Genderqueer? | The world is dying to know…
Singular They | It DOES exist!!
Indie Nudes | A REALLY AWESOME NSFW Time Suck
Jane’s Guide | Best porn site review on the web. Hi Vamp!
Annie Sprinkle | with wife Beth Stephens, Love Lab and Ecosexual)
Twincest RIP | The DEAD Art/Love Project of me and Syd
8asians | I met 1/8th of them!
Genderfork photo blog | A gender MUST-SEE on the web.
Hyphen magazine | Asian America Unabridged
Inverted Eye | Vintage Fetish
Trannywood Pictures | Safer Sexy Trans/Gay Porn
Original Plumbing | Transguy Quarterly
Juicy Pink Box | NYC-based Genderqueer/Trans-Friendly Lesbian Porn Company
Center for Sex and Culture SF | Sex Archives and Events
Transguys.com | Great Resource

Some Trans* Stories, Resources. List is being updated. 
The Transsexual Empire by Janice Raymond

http://transprose.net/2009/06/an-open-letter/

http://nodesignation.com/?p=187

http://www.questioningtransphobia.com/

http://juliaserano.livejournal.com/15219.html

Whipping Girl
Take Me There, Genderqueer Erotica
gendered hearts
True Selves by Mildred Brown
‘Transexy’ By Mark Simpson @marksimpsonist and the blog of @sonniesedge ‘Unaverage Girl’
Trans reading: Letters for my Brothers — http://www.wilgefortis.com/books/letters/
“Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation”
Hello Cruel World, My Gender Workbook

http://katebornstein.typepad.com/

“She’s a Boy I Knew” Documentary
Gender Outlaw, Transgender Warriors
Gender Trouble by Judith Butler, Macho Sluts by Patrick Califia
Nearest Exit by S. Bergman, queer theory gender theory by wilchins, genderqueer ed. wilchins