Photographer Dave Naz is working on a new series about queer folks on the masculine spectrum (including but not limited to: butches, bois, boys, butch, trans, FtMs, genderqueers, trans dykes, etc… the use of labels is to reach out to models of various identities who relate to the project.)
He’ll be shooting in LA, and traveling up to San Francisco in March to shoot some more. Models need not have prior experience, and nudity is not required. Here’s just a peek at some of my favorite photos from the set we recently took. I’ll be posting more soon. If you’re interested or think you might know someone who is, please check out his site DaveNaz.com for more info about the series.
What’s a “finger dick”? Well… scroll down, and I’ll show ya.
I’ve got to hand it to porn reviewers, this is hard work and not for everyone! When HotMoviesForHer.com asked me if I’d be interested in reviewing a film or two on their site I thought I’d give it a go. So I tried to sit down with a double-whammy, comparing “Hole” to “The Hole”.
What’s up with all the Holes? Well you see, “The Hole” is one of Shine Louise Houston’s favorite films and I’ve yet to see it so you know it’s on my list. You can hear her and Violet Blue in an early podcast sharing their love for this flick. “The Hole” is Wash West’s porn parody (way before the porn parodies of our day) of “The Ring” (a remake of “Ringu”), where some men sit around watching a DVD that turns out to be Gay Porn and it turns them GAY! Or so I’m told, I’ve still yet to see it as I accidentally found myself viewing some other film by the same name. I mean, how many holes ARE there?
Delightfully bad 90’s music, cute hard bodies in construction hats and what looks to be the backdrop of a contractor’s office and a job site set the stage for “The Hole“. Good blowjobs and lots of rimming, men smiling and putting their backs into getting ass-fucked. A charmingly awkward script that makes you just chuckle. Oh, and rubbing cocks over underwear. Very hot. So this “The Hole” was good and all, but not what I expected. After hours of watching gay porn, I still have yet to find “THE Hole!”
Either way, this “The Hole” was miles apart from the first film I was set to watch and compare, “Hole“.
Now, before I start I have to say that if something’s not my taste, this doesn’t mean that it can’t be someone else’s best thing ever. Porn is porn, sex is sex, and we’re all pervs.
“Hole” is a filthy raunchy fist-pumping fuck-fest, complete with pissing, bare-back (no condoms) sex, muscular men, Daddies, Leather, plenty of fisting and large toys including an intimidating double-dildo and a rubber leg… which I kind of want! There was also the huffing of poppers or “Tape Head Cleaners”, and also a moment of anal bleeding. Personally, I become concerned when there is tissue damage and was too distracted by the close-ups of men pulling poppers to their noses — to me it seemed that there was more nasal action than anal action.
I did enjoy the nice long close-up of deep dicking, the extremely muscular arms pumping very deep into assholes, and both a double-fisting (with two fists in one asshole) and a double fisting (of one man fisting two guys at the same time, each taking either of his fists). There was also use of a sex swing, and a chain of three gorgeously ripped guys. One of them had a very sweet ass. I was expecting to see lots of hole stuffing and cramming, and that’s what I got! I also wanted to watch intensive fisting, so it was a pleasure to see such thick strong arms pumping into men’s buttholes. Fisting was a focus of the film, and though I’ve not been anally fisted I love — okay, prefer — vaginal fisting durring sex, and so the feeling when watching this film, imagining the fullness, was nice.
I also surprised myself with a swig of beer durring the exact moment a stream of piss flew out of a particularly sausage-like penis. And I attempted to “live tweet” the evening, but quickly lost interest (and so did some followers, haha) which makes me think maybe talking about porn while it’s happening isn’t my strongest suit. Reviewing sexy guys doing the dirty, not too bad for a night in. All in all though, I think I’ll leave the porn reviewing to the pros at HotMoviesForHer.com.
Jinx! This is a “Blog Jinx” by me and Courtney Trouble. From time to time we agree to schedule a blog post on the same topic, to be published at the same time. I’ll show you mine if you show me yours… Check out hers atCourtneyTrouble.com.
It’s been three full days since I’ve returned from Las Vegas where I attended AEE/AVN Awards for the first time. For those unfamiliar with those ABCs, that’s the Adult Entertainment Expo/Adult Video News Awards. It is a major industry event and is about as mainstream as it comes.
“I can’t tweet.” was a big theme of the weekend. With so much going on, staying updated online was nearly impossible, let alone describing it all. Even this blog recap proves a challenge, so I’ll hit the highlights. I was glad I attended AEE because…
I got to see friends and those whose work I respect.
While I didn’t get a chance to reconnect with everyone this trip, and though many didn’t make it out to Las Vegas, the fact that I was able to see many friends such as bloggers, editors, sex toy makers, pornstars, and directors – all in the same place — made the trip worthwhile. I loved stealing a kiss from Belladonna as she signed autographs at AEE. It was nice to run into many of the bloggers, photographers, and all-around perverts such as Lux from Fleshbot Awards, Diva from NYC Sex Bloggers Calendar, Bronques from LastNightsParty.com and Carnal Nation’s Theresa, Shaye and John. Meeting Gram Ponante was worth the price of the plane ticket alone! Also Twisted Monk, Essin’em, Allison Lee from GoodForHer.com, AAG, and the graciously charming Jamye Waxman. The list is long.
I loved shuffling towards the Red Carpet with Joanna Angel and her alt porn posse. Alt porn and queer porn, side by side in more ways than one this year. And though neither the BA crew nor the Queer Porn Mafia (which now includes honorary inductee April Flores) took home any trophies, I was happy that hard working women like Belladonna, Kimberly Kane, Sasha Grey, Bobbi Starr, and Tristan Taormino were recognized for their work.
I was also happy to meet up with stores I love and respect. It was a haven to have a home base at Good Vibes / Good Releasing booth, where I interviewed with Dylan Ryan and Eve Minax from Carnal Nation. I also enjoyed meeting with hotties of The Stockroom, with whom I am really looking forward to more opportunities.
Sasha Grey! I got to do a G4 interview with Sasha Grey. And though my heart was spilling out my pant leg and my vocabulary was reduced to an ear-to-ear grin, I got to stand with her, hug her, and tell her in person that I want to work with her. Dream. Reality. I love her for many reasons. Her mission and belief that porn can positively effect people’s sexualities and make the world a better place matches mine!
Adrianna Nicole! She was sitting upstairs looking gorgeous, and smiled at me. It’s hard to describe how she felt, when I took a seat next to her and flirted. So friendly and welcoming, I want to touch her all over. I chatted with Tristan Taormino (who was also great to see again!) briefly after the show and I hope something some time can manifest. There’s something about her sexuality that feels very solid and enveloping… wow.
Nina Hartley! At the Good Vibes / Good Releasing mustache party, Nina Hartley waved at me. Seconds later she was at my side, taking my hair firmly in her grip and setting her teeth down on my earlobe. I melted. She’s like a sexual psychic. Later on the AEE floor we caught eyes and she mimed a hair grabbing motion. I think my knees buckled. Mommy! Please have Nina Hartley descend down upon me.
I got to see a piece of the industry, from the inside.
AEE/AVN is not the end-all, be-all of the porn industry. I knew this coming in and I know it better coming out. Throughout my explorations of a career in queer porn, I will constantly be faced with challenges, be it exploitation, financial risks and rewards, the goal of remaining true to myself and my values. Psyching myself out about the possibilities of winning was good for me. Writing acceptance speeches is a good exercise in recognizing who you are, how you got there, and who you couldn’t have done it without. While out and about I saw how invisible I was – a reflection of the Straight/Gay website categories, played out in real life on the AEE floor and the red carpet. It was important to feel this while knowing my value. As much as AEE was not my scene, I was able to navigate and not get lost. In explaining how what I do isn’t Girl/Girl, or what the word “GenderQueer” means on the back of my business card, I found myself articulating and expanding my own path.
I got to bring visibility of myself and queers.
There’s a major shift happening in the mainstream adult industry, which includes increased queer visibility. For me, the term “Mainstream” is just as much about distribution as it is any broadly defined aesthetic we can assign it. It is for this reason that I believe increased access to diverse representations of sexualities and gender expressions is a good thing.
A lot of records were broken this year, and I’m thrilled to be in the midst of blowing minds. As I said previously, I believe the recognition queers received this year was better than Hollywood. I’ll have to do some fact checking, but I believe I may have been the first queer porn star to be nominated and receive a blow-job while walking down the red carpet, all on the same night.
And I got to experience all of this, within my family.
Part of the SF Porn Posse aka the Queer Porn Mafia attended AEE/AVN this year. We were each nominated and invited to be there, and supported each other to the fullest. Dylan Ryan also blogged the days as a contributor on HotMoviesForHer.com with reports 1, 2, 3, and 4. We shared a suite with a Roman Luv Tub. I couldn’t have imagined a better crew to snuggle, eat with, and share humidified air together. You ladies made this trip for me.
If you followed our Tweets, those that we were able to squeeze out, you’d see that we ended our trip in a whirlwind adventure after our phones had died, only alluded to on Twitter…
TheDylanRyan: @courtneytrouble @jizlee Last night was epic. Remember when I went for a swim in the mirage fntn, courtney table danced & we got kidnapped?
CourtneyTrouble: @TheDylanRyan @jizlee i think i blacked out the table dancing but i do totally remember taking shots of of evan stone’s abs at MGM
TheDylanRyan: @courtneytrouble @jizlee Shit I forgot about Evan Stone! Was that Sean Michaels who drove the getaway car after our guitar heist @ Hardrock?
JizLee: @TheDylanRyan @courtneytrouble it was! Just got home. These matching tattoos we got are off the hook!
TheDylanRyan: @jizlee @courtneytrouble Wait! you have tattoos on your right butt cheek that say “Queer Porn Mafia for Life” TOO? Amazing.
JizLee: @TheDylanRyan @courtneytrouble You know when we were given keys to the city? I think I forgot mine at the hotel. Will you check your bags?
TheDylanRyan: @jizlee I think U gave yours 2 the Elvis @ the Little White Chapel when U & @courtneytrouble got hitched 2 the boys from Thunder Down Under.
TheDylanRyan @courtneytrouble @jizlee @fatty_d Remember that time we all won Most Outrageous Red Carpet Moment? I love you kids in a big way.
I’m freshly arrived back in the bay, reflecting on my 2010 AVN Awards & AEE experience. I feel rejuvenated, spurred, heavy, and simply glad to sleep in my own bed again. More thoughts and pics to come. Until then, this song felt appropriate for my return: “Home” by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros.
Every time I think about the upcoming AVN Awards Ceremony and my nomination for “Best New Web Star” I get a chill that runs through my body and ends up at the flesh on the bottom of my butt as sharp goosebumps. January 9th rapidly approaches and I’m realizing that I’m really fucking nervous about the chance of actually winning this thing.
While I consider the nomination an award in itself, I also keep psyching myself out about the possibility of winning and what it could mean for my future choices within the adult industry (whether indie, mainstream or an awkward combination that finds it’s own path).
Part of me thinks, “AVN is so mainstream, I don’t stand a chance!” Another part thinks, “Huh. Just imagine if I won. This could be a huge step towards the visibility of queer porn, of alternate presentations of gender and sexuality. This is why I do this… so who knows!” Yes, there is much potential here, and I can’t describe that idea without acknowledging that in being some sort of ‘queer porn poster child’, there is privilege. Regardless of my own vision of ’self’, I know I have qualities congruent to stereotypical Euro-centric ‘beauty’. I’m thin, light-skinned, have feminine proportions, etc…. I can be accessible to a ‘broad audience’ while still at the same time being an ‘other’ in many ways. Of course this grey-area struggle is not uncommon… and besides, aren’t we ALL fighting within our own boundaries, insecurities, and identities?
So with that in consideration, in my New Years resolution I hold this value: that the more visibly supportive I am for my peers and the things which I hold true to myself, the more powerful and proud I will be of success and the positivity it can bring. In essence, I just gotta be me. What I find utterly thrilling, and what makes me tremble, is that I think people are more than just watching me; I think they might actually be seeing me.
Coming from the sexiest geek herself, Violet Blue, it’s a real honor to be included on this list! I’m flattered — particularly being so new to it all. Around 2006 I started teaching myself how to build basic websites, inspired by a project I was working on with a friend for a non-profit arts organization. My odd jobs throughout the years vary, yet through each one I strive to advocate for empowering marginalized voices. Most visibly, this has included providing accessibility for arts and technology. One of my main passions is to help artists, non-profits, and small/minority-owned businesses create web presence and maintain/build their own websites.
So Thank You Violet, for supporting my work — be it sex, technology, or a combination!
I’ll be starting a few new projects in 2010 that are geeky, gender-fluid, and socially-minded — and so I’m thrilled to add “Top Ten Sexy Geeks 2010″ to my bio. This is the perfect spark to a banging new year!
When a recent “Facebook revenge” started circulating the internet involving a youth’s sex list, I couldn’t help but cringe.
There’s a lot of real and potential harm in slut-shaming for youths. There are more than a few examples of youth who have been killed, who have committed suicide (incredibly sad), who have struck out against others in violence and fear, because each situation was dangerously elevated by the negative reaction of community members towards their sexuality. The shame, fear, anger, and hatred against sexuality creates a victim out of everyone, especially youth. And while boys are hardly immune to this we often see the victims arise as young women, trans and queer youths.
“Facebook Revenge” is currently posted on tons of blogs and each pretty much say the same thing. I’m weary of the comments found on these sites, reactions by adults which often show disgust over the idea of a young girl being so outwardly sexual. They laugh at her for keeping a list, call her words like slut, whore, bitch, etc… say she deserved it, point blame at her parents, and many also brag about how “good” their own families or children are for not being [outwardly] sexual at all. Furthermore, a few consider this action as having “ruined her life” — and for this I have to pause. Since when is being sexual and knowing what you want, with whom — and by what deadline! – a bad thing? I hope this list will add evidence to the fact that teens are sexually active and require honest sex education — not “protection” and definitely not punishment.
The comment, “I ♥ Facebook like you ♥ cock” is admittedly funny, but needs more analysis because the obvious difference is consent. Overall, the comment reactions of the post creep me out because of the judgments being slung around. Mollenareplied at me, “I wish she’d been able to own it…THAT would have taken the wind out his sails!” And I agree! The whole point of the sensationalism of this thing is the very fact that it’s “embarrassing”. I wish it was more acceptable to be a slut.
When I was a teen, I was sexually active and found negativity around the topic of sex so I kept a lot of my experiences a secret. I also had a list and though I wasn’t as goal-oriented as the author of the list in question, my list had crushes I wanted to get with and the people who I already had sexual relations with and the sex acts we had done. If I could remember to do it I included the date when it happened. Often this was in list form, though sometimes it became journal entries. I gave blow-jobs, and hand-jobs, and people ate me out. I lost my V-card. I also did stupid things like use lotion as lube and double-up condoms because I didn’t know better.
Years passed and I got lazy about lists. I started again after college when I became poly and far more promiscuous. Now I continue to record sex through my iPhone period app because it’s an easy calendar to use and I always have it on hand. There are a lot of good reasons to keep lists of partners and sexual encounters. Keeping notes of what lovers like/dislike can be important in sex work. Some people who keep clients record boundaries, fantasies, and even sadistic ideas they get, while other people even keep a journal specifically for their lover to read.
Juliette Strayreplied at me “I used to keep a sex list too, though I don’t think I ever really checked any off. In slut solidarity we should make & post new ones.” If I made one it would probably chronicle the co-stars I’ve worked with and performers who I want to work with in the future. But to be honest, my co-stars are often lovers who are new to porn so any onscreen list I create would be, compared to my personal life, relatively short! Isn’t that ironic.
My friend Fivestar is participating in the AIDS/LifeCycle Ride to End AIDS this year. The event is a fully supported, 7-day 545 mile bike ride from San Francisco to Los Angeles that takes place each summer. This year it happens June 6-12. AIDS/LifeCycle is co-produced by the L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center and the San Francisco AIDS Foundation. We’re all familiar with bicycle races such as Tour de France, however this event is not a race, but a life-changing ride. While I haven’t participated myself (though I may some day), I have a good number of friends who have done this ride and they found the whole experience absolutely transformational.
I’m proud of Fivestar for participating this year, and profoundly impressed by her online fundraising strategies. Each participant has a goal they set to raise, and she’s made some progress to her $5,000 goal through offering recorded guitar covers of songs picked by her sponsors, a rope class and clothespin sale, and this amazing 2010 wall calendar which she coordinated with fellow rope bondage/bicycle enthusiasts/riggers/photographers/models.
When she asked me to pose for it I was so honored and excited about the project! The shoot was fantastic and was rigged by her and shot by our friend Terry (remember the Ford Ord photoshoot?) and assisted by Sheila and Maddy. There are so many beautiful, cool, funny, and sexy months. You’ll have to flip through and find me — I’m October, my birth month — but more importantly, you’ll have to purchase this calendar and by doing so help support her ride south through gorgeous California roads. It’s a long trip with months of training all for a great cause. Follow Fivestar’s training adventures, and other kinky trails, on Twitter @iamfivestar or on her Bike Blog, BicycleBondage.com.
After what seemed like years of lamenting with BBW models who have applied to work for kink websites but have never heard back from talent coordinators, and after noticing again and again how models tend to be slender in build, someone has finally created a BBW BDSM website! That someone, is no other than perfect: Kelly Shibari.
I first found out about Kelly through April Flores – Kelly is one of the models in “Behind the Red Door“, and she also appears in “Dangerous Curves” which will be coming out soon. She’s a gorgeous model and I’m extremely excited about her new site, which looks to be open to various sexualities and body types. There’s excitement in the air and shoots in the works as I write. Support Kelly and BBW, and take a look at PaddedKink.com!
P.S. You can also promote her site as an affiliate.
Lately I’ve been asked to do a lot of interviews. Sometimes they’re for magazines and websites, and other times they’re for students writing papers and thesis projects on the subjects of porn, feminism, queers and kink.
I love sharing my thoughts and am thrilled that students are creating dialogue about queer sex, pornography, and are questioning the interpretations of sexual media. And I love reading their final papers!
So from here on out, I’ve got a new approach to interviews with students. I’m going to post each finished paper that is sent to me with this permission by it’s author, and possibly share it with other queer/feminist academic sex sites.
The most recent one I’ve received is by Mikayla Dennis. Thank you for sharing your work and allowing me to post it!
Women and Pornography
Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines taboo as “a prohibition imposed by social customs.” Every culture has its specific taboos. In Judaism, it is taboo to eat to pork. In Egypt , it is taboo to eat an entire plate of food; it is seen as impolite. Blowing your nose in front of others is a taboo is South Korea . Universal taboos do not exists, but a vast majority of cultures do not condone incest, murder, suicide, or pedophilia. Taboos change with time in the United States . What was taboo one hundred years ago could be widely accepted today? Divorce is an example of a taboo that has changed with time. In 1909, divorce was practically unheard of. Only 12 percent of all marriages ended in divorce in the early 1900’s. Today, 50 percent of first marriages, 67 percent of second marriages and 74 percent of third marriages in the United States end in divorce. Repression of female sexuality was very commonplace one hundred years ago. For women, sex was only for procreation purposes and those who yearned for sexual gratification were considered to be living outside the Will of God. Today, women are allowed to express their sexuality freely. As the sexuality of women continues to evolve, women’s influence in the pornography industry continues to increase.
Female sexual practices in the United States have also changed over the years. During the Victorian Era, it was believed that only men could derive pleasure from sexual activity. Women were not allowed to engage in sexual activity freely. Extreme lack of sexual fulfillment and understanding of female sexuality lead to many women being diagnosed with “hysteria.” Hysteria is defined as, “a condition of extreme excitement characterized by emotional disturbance, sensory and motor derangement and sometimes the simulation of organic disorders” (Company 517.) It was believed that nearly three quarters of all women suffered from hysteria. Symptoms of hysteria included a sense of heaviness in the pelvis, tendencies to indulge in sexual fantasies and “excessive” vaginal lubrication (Lerman 101.) Physicians would treat hysteria in women by giving patients vulvular massages. The goal of these massages was to achieve “hysterical paroxysm” also known as “sexual orgasm.” After treating numerous women a day for hysteria, physicians grew tired and began to seek assistance in achieving the desired results. By 1870, a clockwork driven vibrator was available for use by physicians to treat hysteria and by the turn of the century battery powered vibrators were available for private purchase. They were being used as masturbatory aides but were not marketed as such. Vibrators were marketed as a domestic appliance in periodicals. This lasted until the 1920s when they began appearing in pornographic movies.
Pornography is currently defined as the depiction of explicit sexual subject matter for the purpose of sexual excitement. The previous definition of pornography related exclusively to prostitution. In 1857 the English medical dictionary defined pornography as “a description of prostitutes or prostitution, as a matter of public hygiene” (Dunglison 783.) Before the invention of the movie projector in 1876, pornographic material was only available through print (photographs and magazines.) Almost immediately after the invention of movie projectors, pornographic movies were created. The first sexually explicit movie was released in U.S. theaters in 1970. By 1982, movies were being produced on videotape. Videotape allowed viewers to watch sexually explicit videos in the privacy of their homes. Although the internet was invented in 1957, it was not accessible for popular use until the early 1990s. The availability of internet for home use allowed for even more privacy than videotapes. As of 2006, there were 4.2 million pornographic websites and 68 million pornographic search engine results (Ropelato.) The internet allows people to access pornography and remain anonymous. Research has found that 1 in 3 adults who access pornographic websites are women (Ropelato). Theresa Flynt, the vice president of marketing for the men’s magazine “Hustler” states that women account for 56 percent of their business (Blue.)
The roles women play in pornography have increased drastically since the 1980s. Before then, women’s roles in pornography were limited to on-screen positions. Over the past twenty-five years, women have become very active off-camera. One of the first women producer/director of pornography is Candida Royalle. Candida Royalle began her career as a pornographic actress but shifted her focus to director. In 1984, she founded the company Femme Production to “create materials that bespoke a more loving and healthy attitude toward sex and women” (Nagle 156.) Belladonna, Stormy Daniels and Devinn Lane are examples of additional female pornographic actresses who followed suit. As of today, there are over 50 female pornography directors and/or producers. Many of the films produced by women, focus on the sexual activity between the actors instead of the climax of the male actor, also known as the infamous “money shot.”
Some people and groups express negative attitudes toward pornography. The anti-pornography movement was sparked in 1969 when the Supreme Court decided that people can watch what they desire in their own homes. After this ruling, groups such as Women Against Pornography and Women Against Violence Against Women sought to educate the general public of the ways pornography harm women. These groups believe that pornography incites rape and other violent acts against women. Major players in the anti-pornography movement are Catharine MacKinnon, Andrea Dworkin and Gloria Steinem. In an interview, Catharine MacKinnon said she believes that pornography desensitizes people to violence against women (Jeffries.) In 1986, TIME magazine published an article titled “Pornography: the Feminist Dilemma”. The primary reason many people and groups object to pornography is because of the belief that pornography degrades women. Avid anti-pornography protester Jon Leo stated: “By its very nature it tends to degrade women and treat them as sexual playthings for men.”
This article did not mention pornography that depicts two women engaging in sexual activity.The anti-pornography movement has loss a substantial amount of support over the past ten years. The movement has made no impact on censorship.
As the anti-pornography movement began to fade, the support of pornography gained momentum. Groups such as the Feminist Anti-Censorship Task, Feminist for Free Expression and Feminists against Censorship Force publicly declared their support of it. Those who support pornography reject the idea that pornography harms women. The principal idea is that pornography demonstrated the sexual liberation of women. This approach to pornography became known as the sex-positive movement. The sex-positive movement advocates for the acknowledgement of individual sexual diversity. This includes the acceptance of heterosexuality, homosexuality, transsexuality, polyamory and masturbation. Gayle Rubin, Wendy McElroy and Carol Queen are several key players of the sex-positive movement. In her article, “The Necessary Revolution: Sex-Positive Feminism in the Post-Barnard Era,” Carol Queen explains her view of sex-positivism.
She states:
It’s the cultural philosophy that understands sexuality as a potentially positive force in one’s life, and it can, of course, be contrasted with sex-negativity, which sees sex as problematic, disruptive, dangerous. Sex-positivity allows for and in fact celebrates sexual diversity, differing desires and relationships structures, and individual choices based on consent. (2008)
Before researching this topic, I considered myself to be in support of pornography. I firmly disagreed with those who presented the argument that pornography posed a threat to “traditional” family values and that it incites violence against women. While researching this topic, I came across information that cemented my initial belief. I also learned that women are more involved in pornography production than I originally thought. The involvement of women in the production of pornography has increased drastically over the past one hundred years and will continue to climb. The industry created by males for male enjoyment has grown to include women in every aspect of production. With 13 billion dollars grossed in 2008 alone, the pornography industry shows no sign of slowing down.
