Comments on: Sex Lists and Slut Pride

By: ct

ct — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 13:17:50 +0000

when i was in 9th grade, my step brother molested me. the next day, i went to school and broke up with my boyfriend. (Oh man, you should have seen him… mohawk, check, Dead kennedys t-shirt, check, fingerbanging suck-the-life-out-of-you-teenage-lust, check, taught me bar chords, check…) So anyways, he was a very “popular” “punk” and I dumped him, and everybody wanted to know why, and I kept lying and lying and lying and lying so that nobody knew what had happened to me. the lies were cross-referenced by the gossip girls, and I ended up with no cool, popular, punk rock boyfriend (which was QUITE an anomoly in my high school), no friends, and no family trust. this is a case in favor of publicly outing what happens to you in high school, preferably while you’re still in it and not 10 years later like me. i really, really wish i had told my high school punk rock boyfirend the truth. i ended up leaving that school because of it.

By: loripop326

loripop326 — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 01:53:03 +0000

This is an absolutely fantastic post. Thank you.

Slut-shaming isn’t just dangerous to the slut who might not be ready to own her title, it’s also dangerous to society as a whole, by perpetuating a mentality that will continue to condemn the actions of those that seek pleasure for the sake of being pleasured.

Seriously, a fantastic post.

By: Volatelle

Volatelle — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 15:44:10 +0000

The internet is both a blessing and a curse. It’s unfortunate that it can be used to (potentially) harm someone in a slut-shaming manner – but also because it opens up a dialogue like this one with sex-positive people.

Thank you so much for posting this! Its a topic that definitely needs more POSITIVE attention.

Elle

By: Angry

Angry — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 10:06:00 +0000

I have never kept list i have a pretty good memory and no one in the south is kinky in any way. I’m a firm believer in quantity over quality and the more the merrier. I don’t think slut is even in my vocabulary.

I never felt any shame really even when i was in high school I just didn’t give a fuck. I don’t know what happen i just woke up one day in my senior year of high school and i just give a fuck any more.. I had like 2 boyfriends and 3 girlfriends it was so random.

I’m so open with it even now I tell people everything I even offer up pictures to my friends.

I kinda of feel like i can’t comment on this because I was kind of an alpha male. I didn’t face the stigma of losing my virginity or any of the shit that comes with fucking guys. I was never the whore or the cock suckers or any of that.

okay now I just feel bad for her again…

By: FFAF

FFAF — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 06:43:27 +0000

I really, really, really love that you posted this. Thank you!

By: kayla-jane

kayla-jane — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 06:30:14 +0000

As a teen I was the center of some of this slut bashing controversy … an instant message conversation in which i had disclosed detailed information about my masturbation habits, turn-ons and sexual experiences (all the juicy stuff) had been emailed all around my school by the next morning. I walked into a school shaming me and scaring me into lying to the police and causing the controversy continue. I basically told the police someone had altered the original conversation because I couldn’t imagine coming clean to the officers admitting to the dirty things I had copped to in the instant messages. Although I have not kept a list in years I am currently writting a book – or a letter – disclosing to my ex all my infidelities in honest accounts. It is a slut list with over 15 “chapters” in 2 years – while in a “committed/serious/live-in relationship”. I am proud of my former conquests and I think if you are a sexually confident person or just someone who enjoys their sexuality why not be proud of where you have been – it has made you the lover you are today…

cheers
<3
KJD

By: Furry Girl

Furry Girl — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 05:54:22 +0000

Thanks for pointing out Mollena’s comment. Owning it was how I dealt with slut-shaming when I was a teenager, and doing so was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I wish more young sluts did so.

And I have kept a list for AGES (paper before, now a Sticky on my desktop). It’s not a to-do, but a *done* list.